5 Pregnancy Rules I Ignored: Why You Should Too!

Even the first time around when I was pregnant with Amelia, I found myself having to defend certain things that I was or wasn’t doing. Some of the so-called rules out there, after doing my own research I just decided to ignore. Others I just either wasn’t very organised, or couldn’t bear the thought of it (antenatal classes!)

Antenatal Classes

When I fell pregnant with Amelia, I was adamant that I didn’t need new mum friends. In hindsight, I think I was wrong, but this was a major factor in me deciding not to book any antenatal classes. Next on the reasoning list was that I was still working a hell of a lot, running a retail business full time right up until I was over 8 months pregnant. My work left very little in the way of spare time, and while I could have totally scheduled the time off if I had wanted to, the desire just wasn’t there.

The biggest reason that I chose not to attend any antenatal classes was because I truly believed (and still do) that childbirth can’t really be planned for. There is no amount of practising that I could have done that would have prepared me for the reality of childbirth. I feel very strongly that when confronted with actual labour, if you are relaxed enough to let it do so, your body takes over and does what it needs to do. Plus there’s all the people yelling at you to breathe. That helps.

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Birthing Plan

My reasoning for not writing a birthing plan is pretty much the same as why I didn’t go to antenatal classes. I looked at the sample birthing plan I was given when I fell pregnant with Amelia, and almost immediately decided that attempting to plan the unknown was only going to stress me out if/when the plan was strayed from during the actual event.

I knew, even then, that the last thing I needed to be during labour was stressed. So I looked at the plan, even put pen to paper once, and then decided to chuck it. William’s went straight in the bin on my way out of the midwife’s office.


I’m fully expecting a telling off from a few of you on this (and my next) point, and I’m cool with that. There were a number of occasions that I chose not to follow the guidelines on eating undercooked meat and pate. Let’s just get real with Pate, can we? I was pregnant over Christmas with both of my kids, and pate is a big deal for me at Christmas. I see it as a total indulgence, and Christmas is the only time of the year I eat it. As for meat, I was severely anaemic during my pregnancy with Amelia, so yes I definitely did indulge in a medium-rare steak on a few occasions.

The thing with meat and pate is often misunderstood, I think. These things pose no direct threat to you or your baby, or at least no more so than they did before you were pregnant. The problem with undercooked meat and pate is that they are just that – undercooked. This means that they have the potential – they might – hold harmful bacteria that hasn’t been cooked out, and they might make you sick. Obviously getting sick would not be good for you or your baby. I rationalised that so long as what I chose to eat was from a reputable source, and that I had control over the cooking of it, then the chances of me getting sick were as slim as before I was pregnant. Same goes for eggs. Love a runny egg!

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Soft Cheese

As above, the same goes for soft cheese! Brie at Christmas, anyone? I mean, come on – Brie, bacon & cranberry paninis are like Christmas gold dust, right?! The issue with soft cheese is similar to that of undercooked meat and pate. Soft cheese is made with unpasteurised milk, usually, and it is the pasteurisation process that (mostly) removes harmful bacteria. This is not to say that all soft cheese will make you sick, or definitely houses bad bacteria. Think about it. When was the last time soft cheese made you ill? If it was recently, you have my heartfelt sympathy. If like me, you’ve never gotten ill from eating soft cheese then you may well see my point.

Once again, I made sure that my Christmas Brie came from a  reputable supplier, and I monitored or controlled its storage and preparation.

Pelvic Floor Exercises

Alright. I’ll admit it. On this one I was just plain lazy. I couldn’t be arsed, and generally I just forgot to do them! I suppose I have been exceptionally lucky in that I am still, post kids, able to hold my pee even when I laugh (shock horror, I know!) I know that things could have worked out very differently for me, so if I’m honest, my advice to those of you carrying precious cargo would be to do your exercises. Don’t be lazy like me!

Despite the (probably poorly chosen) title of this post, all of these things were entirely my own choice. You shouldn’t take everything you read on the internet for gospel, including this post! Do what works for you!

So I’m genuinely interested to hear about your own choices and experiences. Did you choose to ignore any of the advice you were given? Do you think I’m a total nutcase?! I’d love to hear… Well most things, really!

36 thoughts on “5 Pregnancy Rules I Ignored: Why You Should Too!

  1. I took a lot of them with a pinch of salt too, brie is fine melted and anyway, the french seem to make babies pretty well and they eat plenty of soft cheeses, that’s how I always justified it! Thanks for linking up with the #bigpinklink this week.

    1. That’s so true!!! I’m reading a book at the moment called ‘Why French Children Don’t Talk Back’ and its al about how the French approach things like behaviour and how relaxed they are during pregnancy. It’s a brill read!xx

  2. I didn’t eat pate but ate lots of sushi, drank the odd glass of wine and ran well into the third trimester and my three appear to have turned out ok! #ablogginggoodtime

  3. Hehehe I think it’s funny saying you couldn’t be arsed in regards to the pelvic floor exercised – lol great choice of words! I agree on the class & birth plan. Regardless of your prep it all flies out the window when the real pain sets in! Thank you for sharing with us at #BloggerClubUK x

  4. I did the same pretty much on every point except pelvic floor exercises, mostly because I was scared my vagina was going to explode into a million pieces if I didn’t. On the meat point, I just recently watched this documentary which made me feel terrible as I at loads of meat and raw meat, it’s says it’s about the dioxins that go into your babies blood stream, the main way we get rid of this is either by passing through the fetus or breastmilk and these are chemicals that are dangerous, even cancerous : /. It really freaked me out sorry thought I should share! Thanks for sharing with #StayClassyMama!

  5. I remember someone coming up to a very pregnant me whilst I was clutching a Latte and telling me that I shouldn’t be drinking that. You can take away my soft cheese, my white wine but my one latte a day?! No chance! I snarled at them.

  6. Birth plans are totally pointless. It’s good to have an idea of what you don’t want, but at the end of the day, you’ll go with anything to get the baby out safely if it comes to the crunch! #stayclassymama

  7. I didn’t do the kegels either (or at least not often) but I wish I did as I now pee my pants whenever I sneeze! LOL! You know, with my first baby, I followed the “no undercooked meats” rule until my 9th month when I went to a breastfeeding class and the nurse/teacher told me that wasn’t really a rule! She said that the only risk posed by undercooked meats was the possibility of e coli, and that there was no special risk for pregnant women. I LOVE medium rare steaks! I wish I’d known that all along! #ablogginggoodtime

    1. And that’s exactly where I think the problem lies with guidelines around food. There is always a certain risk around those foods, and I feel like we are made to believe that the guidelines are set in stone rules…

  8. We did the antenatal classes the 1st time round but not the second. Good god they were bloody dire!!! I did skip the pelvic floor exercises and now trampolines are no go areas as is laughing too hard or sneezing 😉 Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

    1. Haha, I have a few dicey moments re the old pelvic floor, but I must say I think I swerved the worst of it haha!! xx

  9. I’m with you on the birth plan – I didn’t have one either because I figured I’d kind of need to just go with the flow. I was really paranoid about soft cheeses and runny eggs, but I think I’d be more relaxed in any future pregnancies – the risk is so low. #stayclassymama

    1. I think the way I approached it is not for everyone – I completely understand when people say to me even though it’s a low risk why would you take any risk at all? I think you just have to go with what works for you!xx

  10. Haha! I like your point of view. Pregnancy can be so stressful if you listen to every rule and every one giving you “advices”.
    I didn’t follow much eating or drinking rules either (gosh sometimes that was such a relief!) and what’s a birth plan? 🙂 But I’m glad I followed antenatal class, especially to feel less lonely and unlike you I regret sooo much being lazy with pelvic floor exercises!!! xD #StayClassyMama

    1. I’ve definitely been very lucky down below haha! I don’t know, maybe quick labours saved me? My first was 4 hours first contraction to being born, and 2nd was 3hrs 15 😂🙈

  11. Great post!!!! There’s so much out there that women shouldn’t do and it’s almost like we’re told not to do it. Not really on. #stayclassymama

    1. I just think that there should be an element of common sense taken into account… were not all morons haha!!xx

  12. So refreshing to hear this! I had a glass of wine almost ( well, every ) night with my two. It helped me relax and it’s all I looked forward to. And Cheese. ( I do regret not going the old pelvic floor exercises though!!)

  13. I am totally with you in the not being able to plan a birth. Waste of time. But those pelvic floor exercises… I’ve been lazy and sneezing is really starting to become a problem, so I have started a strict PF exercise regime! Hope it’s not too late!

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