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Not all fathers are dads, and not all dads are fathers. Dads come in all shapes and sizes, and exist in various forms. Some dads are the biological fathers of their children, and some are not. I feel very lucky knowing that my dad chose to raise me when my father chose not to.

I have thought for a very long time about my relationship with my father, years in fact. I have always worried about referring to him on the blog for fear of upsetting other family members, but this post isn’t really about him. In a way I suppose it’s about what he is not (at least to me).

Perfection Not Required

My dad, and many other dads like him, chose to be a part of my life. He is not my biological father, but he is definitely my dad. He’s not perfect, but he’s always there. He’s grumpy, cantankerous, and a fount of useless knowledge, but he’s everything a dad should be. My dad was there when I tripped and hurt myself. He was there when my mum was sick. He went to the shops to buy me sanitary towels when I started my period. He was there the first time I tripped all the fuses in my flat and didn’t know where the fuse box was. He was there when I needed help moving house last month. My dad hasn’t always been in my life, but he’s always there when I need him.

Dad Chose Me Not All Fathers Dads

It Takes Nothing & Everything

It doesn’t take a lot to be a dad, but in a way it takes much more than that. It takes everything a man has. Any parent will tell you that they love their kids more than words than could ever express. A love like that takes you to a place where you would give everything you have to see that person happy. Being a dad isn’t (always) about money or material things. Being a dad requires only love and time.

A dad will cancel his plans to see his children if they need him. He will be at the other end of a phone, and when he has nothing else to offer he will be there with a hug. It doesn’t matter how old his children get, he will always be their dad, and he will always give them everything he has if and when they need it. Sometimes that might be money, but more often than not it will simply be his love and time.

We’ve all heard the saying;

“Any man can become a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad”

But I like this one more;

Dad Chose Me Not All Fathers Dads

Here’s To You!

So here’s to all the fathers and all the dads who are doing an amazing job at rocking being a parent! Whether you became a dad after you became a father, or had the very special fortune to place yourself in your children’s lives and become their dad, I salute you all!

There are many reasons and examples of why a father might not always be a dad, and not all those reasons are bad ones. If you’re a dad who has stepped in where a father was not able to, chose not to, or isn’t with us anymore, know that you are special.

I’m also very aware that there are occasions when a father is denied to chance to be a dad, at least in person anyway.  I will never understand how or why a mother would deny her child their dad, but I wanted to mention those guys too. I can’t ever imagine being denied time with my kids, so to you guys, keep fighting. although I know it doesn’t ease the pain, never giving up is what makes you a dad, forever. xx

My Dad Chose Me: Not All Fathers Are Dads
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18 thoughts on “My Dad Chose Me: Not All Fathers Are Dads

  • August 21, 2017 at 2:29 pm
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    What a lovely post! I’m sure your dad is very proud of you and I can tell how much you love and appreciate him. Thank you for sharing with #StayClassyMama

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    • August 21, 2017 at 5:25 pm
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      Aww, thank you! I hope so..! Xx

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    • August 19, 2017 at 11:43 am
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      He sounds like an amazing dad and man!x

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    • August 19, 2017 at 11:42 am
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      Some things are just more important, aren’t they?xx

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  • August 18, 2017 at 8:15 pm
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    I love this post. My Other half is a Dad to my eldest two not biologically but in heart he is. Their biological father walked away and my OH has been fantastic the kids couldn’t ask for a better Dad he treats all 4 children the same no matter what. #ablogginggoodtime
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    • August 19, 2017 at 7:45 am
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      Love that! He sounds like a really great guy, and a fab dad too!!xx

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  • August 18, 2017 at 7:01 pm
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    My dad is a ass so know all too well the difference. Luckily my children’s daddy is amazing and I am truly greatful for X #stayclassymsama
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    • August 18, 2017 at 2:29 pm
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      Hear hear! Well, there are some things I don’t need my dad to know!!xx

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    • August 18, 2017 at 1:27 pm
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      🙌🏼

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  • August 17, 2017 at 9:11 am
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    Two of my three sons were brought up by my second husband, their step father, although they never called him dad, because they still had a relationship with their bilalocical father I think that they respected the step dad more#blogginggoodtime@_karendennis
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    • August 17, 2017 at 9:15 am
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      I think it’s great that the 3 of you were able to all be involved in the boys’ lives. That’s actually a really good point that I definitely should have mentioned! Their biological dad remaining involved as well as their step-dad is incredible, and shows masses of character from all involved. I guess it must be quite a hard balance to strike as the adults in the situation, but it’s amazing when it’s pulled off successfully!xx

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