Stress Free Mamahood: Choose Happiness

One of my all time favourite films is Trainspotting, and I was thinking about that famous quote (y’know, the “choose life” one) a lot today. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not comparing my life to that of a heroin addict (unless you count coffee as the ultimate drug?!) But I do find that whenever big life choices come my way, my brain automatically takes itself back to my student days, which were mostly spent smoking cheap roll-ups and watching Trainspotting waiting for the epic end scene!

Stress free Mamahood Choose Life

Have I Chosen Life?

If Rent-Boy was going to test me on whether or not I’ve chosen life, then right now I think I’d be big fat failure. Have I chosen all of those things? The answer is no, not really. But I have chosen some of them… As for the rest, it just doesn’t work for me right now. So maybe Rent-Boy would want to be my mate, because actually I’ve chosen my heroin. I’ve chosen happiness. And sometimes, that just doesn’t go hand in hand with everything else.

I always worry (and probably always will) that choosing to put my career on hold while the kids are young has meant ultimately putting part of myself on hold. But the reality of it is that, pre-kids, working was what made me happy. Things are very different now, and working is simply what pays the bills. As much as I work very hard doing what I do now, and always give my employer the best that I have to offer, it simply isn’t the be all and end all of what makes me tick anymore. Watching my kids grow and learn, and being there to help them along their journey is truly what makes me happy, and that is what I live for now.

But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life. I chose somethin’ else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you’ve got heroin kids? – Mark ‘Rent-Boy’ Renton

Choose Happiness

Just like Rent-Boy chose not to choose life, to choose heroin, I have chosen not to choose life. At least not that life. I’d be lying if I said there weren’t days I wished I had my salary back, but I’d also be lying if I told you I’d be willing to go back to working 60+ hours a week for it!

We are by no stretch of the imagination ‘well off’ right now, but we’re making it work. Some months are harder than others, but to be honest the basics are always covered. I find it only becomes ‘hard’ when the daily coffee fix has to take a back seat! No one likes to deprive themselves, but at least for now I’m choosing to sacrifice the little things so that we can do the bigger things for the kids. The ‘this will have an impact on the rest of your life’ things…

In my really really boring version of the film, this is how my end monologue would go.

Stress Free Mamahood Choose Happiness

What’s My Point?

My point is very simple. Rent-Boy chose heroin. I choose the simple life. I’ve chosen what works for me, right now, just like he did I suppose. We all just have to choose what is right for us, right now, whatever that might be. There is no such thing as perfection, no such thing as the ever elusive ‘having it all’.

So What The Hell Is Stress Free Mamahood About?!

Everything I have chosen feeds quite nicely into my new/planned Stress-Free Mamahood series, and this is where you come in. You can find the direct link to my exclusive Stress-Free Mamahood club on Instagram, where you will find tips, tricks, and my experiences in how I’ve honed (almost) stress-free parenting. I’m also looking for bloggers’ input for a series I’d like to run on the blog sharing your tips and tricks on the things you do (no matter how big or small) to keep the stress levels to a minimum in your own, unique parenting journeys.

Stress Free Mamahood Choose Happiness

If you’re interested in being featured (usual backlinks up for grabs!) just pop me an email at mummymamamum@yahoo.com and I will get back to you with more details, fo sho!

 

31 Replies to “Stress Free Mamahood: Choose Happiness”

  1. I love this post because (1) I love the movie trainspotting and the quote you’ve mentioned (2) I can totally understand what you mean. Im on the other side, working long full-time with regular long hours, so sometimes it feels like I’m not choosing life. I know that’s completely opposite to what you’re saying but in a way if I was with my son more I think I would enjoy life more. : ) It’s so hard and I don’t have the right answer, but I guess one day I would like to have a balance. Thanks for sharing with #StayClassyMama!

    1. It’s so hard isn’t it?! Even working part time (it’s my last day today!!!!!!) still doesn’t feel like the right balance… it’s tough, and I don’t think anyone has it completely set.. xx

  2. I think what stands out for me is that you have chosen in your own way. You’ve weighed up the benefits and decided that it’s not worth it. If not want to work 60 hours either. Luckily I work just half that and I’m okay with that. Should be called ‘I choose okay’. Being a Mum isn’t about finding a happy medium… That is a unicorn idealism that we can’t afford. What it is about is finding our happiest medium. Sorry for the ramble! Thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofblog x

    1. Haha that’s ok I totally get the ramble!! I agree, I don’t think there’s ever such a thing as a true happy medium… there has to be compromise somewhere, but I guess it’s more about learning to be okay with those compromises xx

  3. You are right, having it all is a myth, sold to us to guilt us into wanting it all.

    I agree, streamline, simple, do away with the frippery and focus on what really matters. It’s time to put ourselves centre stage.

    I’m with you on the happiness! #coolmumclub

  4. Love this post, I think it takes a lot to give up your job and focus on your family for a while. For me, I definitely need to have time on my own to keep my stress levels down. Thanks for joining us at the #bigpinklink

    1. I saw it a couple of days after I posted this, and instantly tried to work out how I could use the new quote haha!! Perfect, give me a couple of days and I’ll drop you an email xx

  5. Love this, I’m also a big Trainspotting fan and know it inside and out as you obviously do;-) Such a brilliantly, thought-provoking read for a mama who finds herself questioning her choices a lot. xx #BloggersClubUK

    1. I totally agree! We all have our own ways of dealing with things, and I think it’ll be so great to share some of those ideas!xx

  6. I love your version of the Trainspotting quote – it’s all about choosing your own way to happiness and figuring out what works for you. I think I’m still figuring it out, but it’s great that you’ve got the balance right. #fortheloveofBLOG

  7. I love this post, your attitude and your acceptance. Life waxes and wnes and kids make up the universe — no other way to look at it, if you are going to give this thing called mommy-hood a real go. Brilliant! Thanks so much for this post! I am striving to be a stress free mama, and you just helped me get closer! M’wah! #DreamTeam

    1. That’s a really lovely point, and I love that view… I think most of us would say we feel less stressed as we get older, but like you said it’s probably more about the things we get stressed about. Xx

  8. I love this trainspotting quote, but I think yours is even better. Loving the sound of the new series, I’ll have to have a think of something. Feel free to give me a nudge in a month or so if you haven’t heard from me and you have slots to fill, I have a brain like a sieve 😂
    #fortheloveofBLOG
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    1. Hahaha!! Join the club on the brain like a sieve ailment! We drove all the way home with my phone on the car roof the other day 🙈 thank heaven for rubber kid proof phone cases!!!!! I’ll pop a note in my calendar haha!!xx

    1. That’s so true! Sometimes I wonder why I would choose this, but it doesn’t take long for the kids to do/say something which reminds me exactly why!!xx

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